You’d think she’d have no problem finding a boyfriend. She’s even a bit nerdy (face it, nerdiness is hot).
What’s keeping Jane from finding that special long-term someone? She had her tubes tied six months ago.“My dolls were friends, not babies,” she laughs over the phone one rainy afternoon. (And no, Facebook friends, Jane isn’t her real name, so don’t try stalking her.) We’ve talked before about her finding guys who don’t want kids.
"When I got together with all of them, they didn't want kids. They either lied to me or changed their mind during the course of the relationship."She has now been dating someone new for two years, and since he's younger than her, she's afraid the same thing will happen and wants to prevent it. The mind-changers: what hints, if any, did you miss or notice too late that they were actually fencesitters all along? I would also stop seeing it as a 'waste.' The first two years of any relationship are always just the beginning of anything long-term. You're going to have to go through a few breakups until you finally find the right match for you.
Here's the advice other Redditors gave her:"I'm sorry that I don't have better news, but you can't keep people from changing their minds or lying to you. The only good news I have is that you will get older, and that alone will weed out the guys who think they'd be able to change your mind." —"Separate the exes who lied from the exes who changed their minds. If it wasn't kids, it could easily have been something else, as perfect as some of these guys might have appeared in the beginning and middle." —"Unfortunately, to some degree, this is just how it's going to be for people like us until society starts to loosen its grip on the 'all women are destined to be mothers / everyone wants kids' idea.
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He says he’s not surprised.“Most people around the world do want to reproduce,” Garcia says.It's 100% free, and 100% free of singles with kids.